Prepping For Fun

We’re getting ready for our family vacation in August. It’s a biggie – driving down to Washington, D.C. for a few nights before heading down to South Carolina for few more. The kids are all excited. Really, they love any change of scenery. And hubby is doing is part to prepare. He’s actually had a lot to do: get the car serviced, have the mail stopped, devise a tentative itinerary (after all, we have kids so it has to be somewhat flexible). Oh, and he has to pack.

Yeah, that’s it.

As with all moms, the bulk of the preparation work is on me. Not that I’m opposed to vacations, but let’s face it. Wives tend to do more prep than the husbands. The males are responsible for one person: themselves. We handle the other living things in the house: kids, pets, even plants. [Read more...]

Gratitude Is Cool On A Hot Summer Day

The kids and I have been keeping cool this summer. Our house has central air, the car’s AC works wonderfully, we have lots of cold bottled water, and we spend quite a few afternoons lounging by the town pool. They, of course, take it for granted. And I, like all elders, bore them with tales of my childhood.

My parents, in their supreme dysfunction (my mother was mentally ill and my father felt psychiatry was just airing dirty laundry, so he did not get her treatment), did not believe in air conditioning. Consequently, our top-floor garden apartment was always hotter than outside. There was a fan in every room and my brother and I would jockey for position in front of it, hoping mom didn’t have it in the window where she swore it would “bring the outside air in and cool the room down” even if it was 99 degrees outside.

At night, we slept in as little clothing as possible, again, in front of the fan. Periodically, my brother and I would get up to get a little water on our bodies before going back to the fan (we slept in the same room). There were many nights, however, when we didn’t sleep much because the room was so hot. I even remember my brother camping out in the dry bathtub one night because the porcelain was cooler than his sheets (no one used the bathroom that night).

We had no family car so we’d walk to wherever we needed to go, even on the hottest days. Every time I see my high school graduation picture, I marvel that I didn’t look as sweaty as I felt the day it was taken since I’d had to walk at least three miles to the photography studio. My brother and I would regularly walk to movie theatres on the weekend, no matter what was playing, because the theatres were air conditioned. [Read more...]

The Party Don’t Start Till I Walk In

While on our family summer vacation in Sea Isle City, my mother-in-law and I passed a newly built playground, complete with rubber bottom and age appropriated signage. “They just didn’t have those kinds of things for my kids,” my mother-in-law sighed with regret. Her regret is not really targeted at herself, but at the society that existed when she was a mother.

She went on with, “We just didn’t have so many things to do with our kids,” again with a sigh. Her sadness is genuine because she is the pied piper of playtime. My children, really any children, prefer her company to any parent from this generation or hers. She summed up with, “It just was not part of the culture in the 70’s.”

It is true. Mothers of the 1970’s, and I say “mothers,” because, let’s face it, they ran the show when it came to the kids, had to be creative to create a child-centered life for themselves because the culture did not make it very easy. Yet, there did not seem to be a lot of pressure to run counter to the culture. [Read more...]

Spoiled by Swimming Pools

During a particularly boiling-hot summer, the “It’s Always Sunny in Philadelphia” characters went to several lengths to cool off in any available pool.  I found it hysterically funny for the measure of desperation.  They endured the public pool which contained broken glass and Danny DeVito throwing in a greased watermelon for sport.  They tried to join an exclusive private pool where the attendant insisted membership already reached capacity even though it appeared pristine and empty.  Others tried to renovate a unsalvageable pool and became stranded when the ladder was thrown out of the abyss.

Each year, I smile at the township’s registrar and gladly fork over my local pool’s membership dues.  I love swimming; the fresh, chlorine smell; the refreshing, great exercise; and the possibility of meeting new people.  For me, joining the pool and enjoying all its benefits outweigh any cost.

Blissful, sense memories from cooling off in a wet, turquoise expanse flood my mind.  I rarely enjoyed backyard sprinklers, hating the stray pieces of grass that would cling to the bottom of my feet.  As a toddler, my family joined our local pool.  I learned to swim there and could safely walk a short distance to the pool.

Despite the myriad of rules, the pool was a fun and exciting place to spend a hot summer afternoon.  Four aquamarine pools equipped for all ages and different types of swimming including lounging like tea bags, playing games, and swimming laps.  Excitement heightened when the diving towers opened where you sliced through air into deep sapphire waters.  We challenged each other to jump off the towers – I braved the first tower; my sister the second; and one courageous friend dove off the third which still makes me shiver with fear. [Read more...]

Sprout

My dad gave me a book today.
“Stress is a Choice: 10 Rules to Simplify Your Life”

First rule is “Spot that Sprout.”
It asks the reader to find the sprout you need to focus on & to let the other things go, as much as you can.

I took from the short chapter that you want to focus on remembering that sprout. Making the sprout the priority in your life, while other issues/people/what-not get taken care of when you can take care of it.

One such sprout in my life is the Cheekers. I waited a long time to have him. 36 years to be precise. Quick do the math, you know you all want to. Due to having to work full time & having a commute of about 30 mins., I drop him off at daycare at about 7:15 am & pick him up about 5:45pm. That’s one heck of a long day for him & for me.

When we get home I usually make dinner, clean it up, give him a bath & then it is goodnight sweetheart.

Last night, we threw caution to the wind, decided to nix dinner and head to the pool. He had an ok day at school (Cheekers is what we loving refer to as a discipline issue…I’ll write more about that at another time) so his reward was to go to the pool.

I would like to say that it was just he & I for 90 minutes at the pool. It takes us all of 30 seconds to walk across the street & run to the big pool. [Read more...]