Finding Hope, Even in the Midst of Death… and Snow

Today marks the 6th anniversary of the death of one of my dearest and closest friends.  On New Year’s Eve 2004, my friend took her own life.  My 1st born child was only 3 months old.  Her death was devastating and incomprehensible and still continues to be so.  She was the kind of sister I always wanted and didn’t have… the girl friend who taught me how to give of myself unconditionally, lift up others and bring joy to those around.  She taught me how to laugh and how to live genuinely. 

A couple of weeks ago, I went to a Girls’ Night Out Christmas party.  It ended fairly early, around 9pm.  When I left the house, which is only a 1/2 block from the Navesink River, the wind was whipping something wicked.  I quickly ran to my car and turned on the heat.  I drove home comfortably warm and arrived at my destination in less than 10 minutes.   Now, in the past few days, the snow from the blizzard looms outside my home.  

When faced with these extremes, I begin to ponder the fortitude and perseverance of the human race.  In our modern world with the convenience of automobiles and the comfort of an insulated house built with an automated thermostat and furnace (don’t forget running water), I ponder how our ancestors possessed the drive to make it through a 17th Century winter, no less a blizzard. 

Ultimately, I question why some humans find the desire to continue on with life, to survive at all costs, while others do not. [Read more...]

Give Your Kids God

My dear friend Sue has a plaque that she keeps at her work station.  It reads “Attention everyone, this is God. I will be solving all of your problems today. I do not require your help.”

I find this notion extremely comforting. But don’t get me wrong – I don’t think God means for us to lay on our couches, pork rinds in one hand, a phone in the other, ordering up additional couches we don’t need from Pottery Barn while smirking “Get a loada this, one, Big Guy!” as we gaze heavenward and expect God to somehow pay our credit card bills and not make us obese with no action whatsoever on our parts.

But, I love the idea that there is something bigger than ourselves, some entity, in fact, with whom we can have a deep and personal connection.  I fervently believe in God, despite a number of people who tried to talk me out of it in the past years and  regardless of the fact that my best friend is currently an atheist. And I think that the belief in God, in a power that loves and forgives us unconditionally, becomes even more important when you become a parent. [Read more...]