Too Early for the Birds and the Bees?

One day, I couldn’t find my Glamour magazine.  My daughter E loves to flip through my magazines, especially ones with fashion and beauty articles and perfume samples, but she knows not to take them until I’ve “censored” them, meaning I rip out any racy content, unfit for her.  I quickly forgot about the magazine and still couldn’t locate it that evening.   Maybe it ended up in the recycling bin.  Again, I gave up and turned to my stack of books, waiting to be cracked open.  The next morning, I started making beds and lifted up my son J’s pillow to fluff it up.  Sitting under my 5-year old boy’s pillow was my Glamour magazine!

Another morning, I spied a Barbie, her chest bare, sprawled on the floor.  Only J and I were home, and we always insist that the kids put away their toys before bedtime, so it must be J’s doing.  I snickered a bit; wondering how early is too early to have the birds-and-the-bees talk.  Somehow, although curiosity and probably admiration encouraged J to remove the Barbie clothing, I’m pretty sure he doesn’t quite understand why he did it.  When broached about the Barbie’s half-naked state, he mumbled, blushed and said he didn’t know.  I left it at that. [Read more...]

A Hot Date With Me

Shall we grab a drink at the Waldorf bar before dinner?  Sure.  Then let’s head to a romantic restaurant for our dinner reservations, and next week maybe spend the night tasting the delicacies in Little Italy?  Orchestra seats for a Broadway show?  Of course, Darling.  And, what was I going to wear on any of these early NYC dating adventures?  Not a last minute problem, because I had plenty of time to try on a million dresses, shoes and accessories the week before on my way home from work, or wasn’t shopping the point of weekend daytimes?  Dating in my 20s was a lot of fun, and not short of extravagance.  Although, the guy has stayed the same, now that we’ve become parents, things have become…well…let’s just say a little different.

Nowadays we can’t have a romp out on the town without a pre-planned babysitter.  And, we’re 50/50 up to the time of departure hoping that there is no last minute child illness.  And, unless our daughter is sleeping at Grandma’s, we have a curfew. [Read more...]

I Think I've Lost My Friend-Making Mojo

For as long as I can remember, I’ve loved having a varied group of people around me.  In fact, I’ve been called a “social butterfly” on more than one occasion since I was a little girl and, while this quality has been an asset in so many situations over the past couple of decades, I have realized since moving to New Jersey that it’s not as easy to make friends as an adult when you have to begin anew.

I was moving to a place where I knew not one soul (other than my parents), so, before I even arrived in the Garden State, I researched mom groups and other groups of interest where I might be able to regularly take part and meet other women.  After a time, I convinced myself that it wouldn’t hurt to meet a few men along the way, too.  It wouldn’t have to be anything serious, right?  So, I took to a couple of dating sites with nothing to be expected.  Just “getting out and meeting people.”

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