After arguing with my 12-year old daughter E who has autism of the high-functioning variety, she shouted out, “You have to be nice to me because I have a disability!” I stared at her in disbelief. I wondered who ever spoke these words to her and how she came to the conclusion that because she’s […]
Our family has been catching up with friends and acquaintances this summer. These are people we like and generally respect; however, I’m flummoxed by their responses to some of their children’s behavior and by what they ask their kids to do. Case in point: Bob and Carol are lovely people whom we’ve known for many […]
“You are going to have to control your children.” Could there be a phrase that packs a bigger punch? I think it is right up there with, “You look like you put on weight,” and “That’s funny, your husband doesn’t act like he’s married.” No, I think a comment that cuts to the core of […]
Threatening the children who are not habitually in trouble does nothing. Sure you could say that the “good” kids will pressure the “less than stellar” kids to behave better, but if intervention by parents and teachers hasn’t had an effect on these kids, I doubt that the grumblings of peers who are not their friends will. What the teachers are actually doing is further stressing our already-pressured children by threatening to take away a perk that was earned by those who behave well.
“I can’t host that day.” That is all my email says. I think of follow up details like, “My husband has to work from home that day,” or “We have work being done,” but so far there does not seem to be a need for details. A good lie is simple and a simple omission […]