Manicure In The Wild

The older woman looked down at my 5-year old while the Fashionista eyed the gentle crone. They sized each other up, realized they were kindred in spirits, and with me looking safely on, retreated to a back table. The woman laid out the paints – blue, green, yellow, pink, orange. The soon-to-be kindergartener eyed them before carefully choosing her favorites. As my daughter sat statuesque and still, the kind woman methodically began to paint. The manicure had begun.

What made this encounter unusual was the setting. This was no nail salon. It was not in a house or beauty parlor. It was at the Lewis Morris State Park. [Read more...]

The Party Don’t Start Till I Walk In

While on our family summer vacation in Sea Isle City, my mother-in-law and I passed a newly built playground, complete with rubber bottom and age appropriated signage. “They just didn’t have those kinds of things for my kids,” my mother-in-law sighed with regret. Her regret is not really targeted at herself, but at the society that existed when she was a mother.

She went on with, “We just didn’t have so many things to do with our kids,” again with a sigh. Her sadness is genuine because she is the pied piper of playtime. My children, really any children, prefer her company to any parent from this generation or hers. She summed up with, “It just was not part of the culture in the 70’s.”

It is true. Mothers of the 1970’s, and I say “mothers,” because, let’s face it, they ran the show when it came to the kids, had to be creative to create a child-centered life for themselves because the culture did not make it very easy. Yet, there did not seem to be a lot of pressure to run counter to the culture. [Read more...]

Top Five Best NJ Parks and Playgrounds

With summer here, I think our kids need to get outside everyday for lots of fresh air, sunlight and exercise.  This was a long, cold and snowy winter, so now I like to take advantage of every non-raining day to explore the beauty of New Jersey.  It got me thinking about the best parks and playgrounds for kids, those with plenty to do that is fun and free.

So, here it is:

The Top Five Best Parks and Playgrounds for Kids, According to this 30-something Mom of Three

5) Mount Mitchill Scenic Overlook, Atlantic Highlands.  This park has an amazing view of Sandy Hook and New York City, as well as Brooklyn.  It homes Monmouth County’s 9/11 memorial, as well as, a great playground with two jungle-gym sets.  It is the highest natural point along the whole Atlantic coast and a great place to picnic.

4) Dorbrook Recreation Park, Colts Neck. This park is truly amazing with all it has to offer.  There is the Sprayground which is a free waterpark for kids.  Yes, FREE!  There is also a huge playground area with multiple jungle-gyms, swings and seasaws and an awesome sandpit, so don’t forget your kids’ shovels and buckets.  There are also multiple paved loops for moms to walk with strollers or for kids to ride their bikes.

All three of my kids love the sprayground.  The playground also has this fabulous rolly-slide that my middle son is obsessed with.  He loves to say, “ouch!ouch!ouch!” all the way down.  Don’t worry, it doesn’t really hurt, he just thinks it’s funny. [Read more...]

4th of July… Seaside Style… BENNYs Go HOME!

Remember that show, “Love, American Style“? 

Just checking.

Because I grew up in Seaside, the 4th of July means something different to me.  First and foremost, for everyone it means the birth of our great nation.  That’s not what I’m talking about, though.  

Unlike most people, the 4th did not represent fun, family vacation time.  The 4th didn’t convey images of a long weekend to bask in sun at the Jersey Shore.  Take a dip in the ocean.  Ride the rides.  Walk the boardwalk while eating pizza and candy apples or cotton candy.  Play miniature golf on Casino Pier.  Or take a chance on a wheel to win a stuffed animal.

Instead, the 4th meant working on the boardwalk until almost 2 in the morning.  Scoffing down pizza during my quick 15 minute break.  And making cotton candy and selling candy apples. [Read more...]

My Own Slice of Fourth of July Americana

I miss my hometown of Maplewood’s idyllic, quaint nature as it was.  However, upon graduation, I couldn’t wait to leave; ready to seek possibly greener pastures.  Now I’d love to live there or in a similar place.  One of the best things about it is the annual Fourth of July celebration which provides fun all-day family fanfare.  Several years of memorable town celebrations made it one of my favorite holidays.

Since 1902, Maplewood honored the birth of America by hosting a “town-wide picnic” where “athletic contests and barbecues” took place and a “speaker, usually a politician,” would address the community.  Neighbors traveled together to the park, located near the center of town.  This neighborhood caravan eventually evolved into “expensive…and elaborate parades” that fueled “fierce competition between neighborhoods.”  At that point, committees and associations were “formed to unite the township activities” and provide “family-oriented celebrations.”  So close to the heart of the town is the celebration that a “mural, depicting a historical Fourth of July celebration” hangs on the wall of the municipal building’s meeting hall. [Read more...]

Truck Driving Man

“Hey, how are you today?” I sweetly sing.  I make an attempt at opening my sleep deprived eyes as wide as my smile. “Good,” he smiles back amicably, but I can see that my fairly clean teeth do not over shadow my sweat matted hair.  I press on, undaunted, and shamelessly flirt with this man more than half my age because I need to get my son on his truck.

A mother will do anything for her child. I am just beginning to grasp the full scope of this statement, as I brazenly bargain with every civil servant and construction worker in town in order to procure a moment of attention for my son. Today’s mark is the owner and operator of The Cinnamon Snail, an organic food truck at our local farmer’s market. Certainly this young entrepreneur gets approached by kale and legume fed young girls all day long, so I know that as an almost 40-year old mother of twins I am going to have to step up my game in order to get my son a glance behind the scone making scene.

I switch to the COP plan: Child as Prop.  [Read more...]

Instilling a Love of Nature in my Children

In a recent post, I wrote about how I am trying to instill a love of reading in my children.  I also want my children to have love and respect for nature and the world around them. 

Growing up in Wisconsin, I spent a lot of my time outside.  I could be found riding my bike around the neighborhood, building forts out of snow, helping my parents in the garden, playing with one of our many pets or lying in the grass and reading a book.  My memories are full of camping trips with my family, the time my brother woke me up in the middle of the night so I could see the northern lights from our backyard (one of the most beautiful sights I have ever seen) and the numerous caterpillars I held in my hands.  When I was deciding whether or not to move out to the east coast, it was my proximity to the ocean that convinced me to stay.  The first time I saw the ocean, I was ten years old.  The second time I saw the ocean was the day I stood on the beach and decided I would not move back to my birth state.

So here are a few things my husband and I have been doing to instill a love of nature in our children. [Read more...]

Mommy’s “Summer Fun” List

Before summer officially begins, I sit down with my children and allow them to make a list of “50 Fun Things to-do” throughout the summer.  While some of the “things” are costly (day trips to Great Adventure, the Cape May Zoo, etc.) an equal amount of silly things we can do in the comfort of our own home—or closely nearby—when their “boredom” sets in.

But, what about us moms?  Sure, the summer is filled with shuffling our kids back and forth to parks, playdates and the beach, but what about some things just for us so that we can enjoy the warmth and freedom that the summer brings?  This year, I’ve made my first “Mommy’s Summer Fun List” and I am sharing it with you to hopefully inspire you to take some time to do the same.

In no particular order, here are 15 (yeah, I know—they get 50, and I get just 15!) things I’d really like to do this summer:

  1. Read a good book, or two!  After a long day playing cruise director, all I care to read is something light-hearted and easy, which is why I picked up “Didn’t I Feed You Yesterday” after a recommendation from a fellow blogger.
  2. Lay on my hammock—as opposed to glancing at it wishing I were laying on it.
  3. Declare a few minutes each day as “adult swim” time where the kiddies get to play happily in their yard while mommy floats around the pool.  Cocktail optional.
  4. Organize my filing cabinet once and for all.
  5. Hire a babysitter at least once this summer so I can lay on the beach…alone.  [Read more...]

Summer Means… Dirty Feet and More

Flip-flops… oh, the true shoes of summer.  We whole-heartedly know the warm weather is upon us when we shed our boots and sneakers and allow our piggy-toes to oink in the sunlight.   Polished or not.

I just bought myself a new pair of hot pink crocs.  They’re a funky shape, shaped like a foot, but unlike most people, my big toe is not the longest toe.  In fact, I have a deformity called Morton’s toe.  So, even though I dig the color of these sandals, I am not too keen on the shape as it is a constant reminder that I am outside the norm.   Oh well.

Unfortunately, flip-flops also mean constant dirty feet. Ugh. [Read more...]

Storybook Land

As part of a recent weekend getaway to south Jersey with the kids, we went to Storybook Land, an amusement park in Egg Harbor Township geared towards small children, ages 1-8. I had never been there and at $22 per person, the tickets seemed a bit expensive. I discovered it in my Kidstuff coupon book and was game to try something new. I’m so glad we went!

After getting over the looming statue of Mother Goose at the entrance, the first thing that struck me was how clean it was.  Winding paved pathways made for great wandering and discovery and the entire place is wooded with trees.

The park is full of easy-going rides for little kids, who can go on alone if tall enough, or accompanied by an adult otherwise. My husband and I switched off accompanying each of the girls on the rides, and it was great that there was not a single ride that we couldn’t go on in pairs, or all four of us together. It was the perfect introduction to amusement parks for our kids (ages 3.5 and 2). It was a Monday, not crowded at all, with just enough people to make it enjoyable. [Read more...]