Chef Dad

There is a cartoon hanging on our fridge in which a man is looking inside a refrigerator. The fridge is filled with butter, on every, single shelf. The bubble above his head says, “Hon, where’s the butter?”

Oh, the irony! Yes, dear reader, I can relate. My husband is a wonderful cook, but his schedule means I am the main Betty Crocker around here. Recently I have tried to get him more involved, at least in meal planning. It went well the first week; this week not so much.

His contribution yesterday was to ask whether we had stuff to make a salad to go with the homemade turkey soup I was making. (No. We had sliced English cucumbers on the side, thank you very much.) He also suggested I go to the bakery for a baguette instead of making the corn muffins I had planned. With a slight grudge I stopped on the way to my daughter’s piano class (which you know, moms, meant dealing with yet another parking meter and yet another round of coaxing the kid in and out of the car, navigating the seat belt, etc.) to the bakery, only to discover it was closed.

Sigh. Dinner turned out fine. But I had to laugh this past weekend when he did take over in the kitchen and made a super great lamb tagine seemingly out of thin air. (Well the truth is, he realized later that the whole thing was supposed to bake in the oven for 1.5 hours AFTER the stove top preparations, and he was missing some key ingredients, but it turned out delicious anyway!)

The part that made me laugh was it had been awhile since he had cooked a proper meal and he kept calling to me from the kitchen. Did we have gluten-free all-purpose flour? (Yes, top pantry shelf.) Did we have lemons? Did we have rosemary? (Yes, I am half way through reorganizing our spices.) Did we have butter?

Just kidding.

This is an original Jersey Moms Blog post. Theta Pavis is a freelance editor and poet. She blogs about dinner with her family at Kasha and the Chaos and dreams of eating out at least three nights a week.

Keeping It Off

It’s that time of year again! You can’t go anywhere during the month of January without seeing something about how to lose weight and get fit. New Year, new you! People magazine’s current cover is the annual “Half Their Size!” edition. The new season of The Biggest Loser is premiering this week. Every store is offering discounts on fitness and nutrition products. But what about keeping the weight off? The magazines and televisions programs never really say much about that, do they?

I have a bit of experience in this area. Over 12 years ago, I began my weight-loss journey. By changing my eating habits and beginning a regular exercise regimen, I lost 128 pounds in about 20 months. No surgery, no drugs, just eating right and moving. I, like many others, am proof that eating right and exercising can help you lose weight. So, how have the last 10 years been for me?

Six and a half years ago I gave birth to my first son, B. He was not the best napper, so every day I took him for a 5 mile walk around our neighborhood. The daily walks and breastfeeding helped to get me close to my pre-baby weight. Then one day when B was about nine months old, my local mom’s club hosted a demo stroller class at the park. The class, run by Mommy-Moves, was a combination of strength training and cardio. I really enjoyed the class, and I liked that I could keep B with me. I immediately signed up for the class and started to go twice per week. Classes were held outside during the summer and fall, and indoors during the winter. When I became pregnant with my second child, I continued with the stroller class until my 38th week. I was amazed at how much better I felt during my second pregnancy. Once I received clearance from the doctor six weeks post partum, I resumed the stroller class and kept taking it regularly until my youngest son N no longer needed a stroller. The certified instructors, moms themselves, know how to tailor the program to fit everyone, whether you are pregnant, post partum, a beginner or ready for more advanced work. They also offer a mommy-only boot camp class, which is amazing (and on the beach during the summer!). [Read more...]

But I Don’t Want to Diet! And Hurricane Sandy Ain’t Helping

My pants don’t fit. It’s really that simple. I’m forcing the zippers, buttons, snaps to close and walking out of the house wondering when they are going to fly open and pop — sending a projectile across the room and hitting someone in the eye.

It’s like something out of a TV commercial, only this is me facing my closet every morning and then struggling into something. Ugh. In the past I feel like I have been able to rein it in, and Weight Watchers has worked for me in the past. But this time, I just can’t seem to get into it. Part of it might be because I have been doing it (or, not doing it) online.

I already do everything else online, alone in my home office, so maybe that is part of the problem. Also – there’s the fact that I have a huge appetite and always have. Also, I love baked goods. I also have food sensitivities, so when I am trying to be good, that means staying away from dairy and wheat. So when I do get my hands on something wheat and dairy free — I tend to go a little hog wild. Those dairy free “ice cream” bars get gobbled up. And now with the holidays approaching it is only going to get harder.

It doesn’t help that I am lazy. I love going to the gym, but not until the work out is over. I’m like a kid you can’t get into the bath who, once in, has an awesome time and doesn’t want to leave. Getting myself to actually go to the gym is a huge hurdle. And not too far from the gym is this incredible French style bakery that opened up… [Read more...]

I Shop, Therefore I Am

I remember when I first became a true, active consumer. It was when I registered for wedding gifts. This was well before having kids, mind you, when I had the time and mental capacity to ponder such vital decisions as Calphalon vs. All-Clad and Wusthof vs. Henckles. Oh, how those things mattered to me in that moment! I even recall feeling strongly about being a Honda owner when it came time to buy our first car, even if it was a many-times-used beater with the loudest engine on the block.

Now here I am, nearly 20 years down the road (on which I drive a Toyota) and I couldn’t care less whether my wine glasses match or what brand of pans I scramble eggs in. (Though I will mention that the high-quality All-Clad set so generously given to us by our friends and family are still in pristine condition and doing a damn fine job! Take that, Calphalon!!) Becoming a mom totally zeroed out the luxury of consumerism and brand fetishes I enjoyed for that little blip of time.

But I realized something curious recently. Now that I live in the burbs and spend such an inordinate amount of time thinking about food (i.e., feeding those endlessly gaping little mouths at home, finding ingredients for a new recipe, preserving my sanity with a good square of sea salt caramel), I’m finding that my fellow mommy-shoppers dedicate themselves to supermarkets the way Carrie Bradshaw once adhered to her Manolos.

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Nuts About My Son’s Allergies

The peanut hung over my son J’s lip while chocolate drool poured down his chin.

“Mom, I did something…I accidentally ate something with a peanut in it.”

Speechless, I couldn’t remember what to do.  I barely knew how to use the EpiPen in my purse, and I didn’t want to jump the gun and shoot him up with the pen before I tried Benadryl first.  Unfortunately, I’m not the type of mom who carries tissues and snacks, so I’m lucky I even had the pen with me.  Sometimes, I even forget to carry money.  I made a mental note to put some Benadryl in the car.

We were at a birthday party and goodie bags were distributed.  At each party and Halloween, I repeat the same instructions ad nauseam: Don’t open the bag or unwrap any toys or candy until we go home.  I don’t like sticky hands and party trinkets scattered everywhere.  Also, I worry that J will inadvertently eat a nut-filled candy.

When he informed me about his mistake, I dropped everything, rushed to the bathroom and made him rinse his mouth out.  Then I raced through goodbyes.  Once home, I gave him Benadryl and waited for the reaction that thankfully never arrived.

A week before J turned 2, he tried peanut butter and broke out into mild hives.  When the pediatrician examined him during his annual check-up, he suggested we try it again next year.  We chickened out.  Although I was somewhat concerned, we ate at places like Chik-Fil-A and Five Guys where they use peanut oil, and he never experienced an allergic reaction, so it couldn’t be too serious.  After confirming his allergy later on, the doctor explained that the peanut protein, not the oil, usually causes the allergies to act up. [Read more...]

Chew on This: School Food and Parent Responsibility

I invite you to put on your pointy policy wonk hat and take a look at NJ school food policy with me (or go Evelyn Wood and skim), then think about what’s going on in your own district and why.

The NJ School Nutrition/Wellness Policy, which sets the minimum standards for school food throughout the state, cites federal standards governing reimbursable meals and snacks (as defined by the U.S. Department of Agriculture Child Nutrition Program) and articulates its own rules regarding other food made available during the school day.

Specifically, items that can’t be served, sold, or given away anywhere on NJ school property during the school day include:

1) foods of minimal nutritional value, which are defined by the USDA as soda, ices without fruit or fruit juices, gum, hard candy, jelly candy, marshmallows, fondant (e.g., candy corn), licorice, spun candy, candy-coated popcorn;

2) all foods and beverages listing sugar, in any form, as the first ingredient; and

3) all forms of candy.

Items containing trans fats are discouraged and must be “reduced.”

Additionally, snacks and beverages that are sold or served on NJ school property during the school day can’t contain more than 8 grams of total fat (with the exception of nuts & seeds) and 2 grams of saturated fat per serving. At the elementary level, beverages can only be water, milk, or 100% fruit or vegetable juices and can’t exceed 12 ounces (except water and low-fat milk). In middle and high school, at least 60% of all beverages offered, other than milk and water, must be 100% fruit or vegetable juices, and no more than 40% of all ice cream/frozen desserts can exceed the standards for sugar, fat, and saturated fat.

In principle, federal and state nutrition policies aim to address the alarming trends in childhood overweight and obesity and their impacts on health caused by poor nutrition and a lack of physical activity. During the last 10 years, obesity rates have doubled for children and tripled for teenagers. More than a quarter of U.S. children are overweight. As a consequence, more than one in three white children born in 2000 will develop diabetes; black and Hispanic children have a one in two chance.

There has been good news on the federal front with the passage, in late January 2012, of stronger nutrition standards for school meals (see food advocate Marion Nestle’s excellent overview on her blog Food Politics). These standards seek to enact some of the principles set forth in the Healthy, Hunger-Free Kids Act of 2010, including more fruits and vegetables, a greater variety of vegetables, more whole grains, and low-fat or skim milk with meals.

In practice, on the ground in our schools, my sense is that the reality is much more a work-in-progress. While school districts in NJ can adopt the NJ state policy as is or decide to strengthen its requirements further in their own district wellness policies, implementation and enforcement probably vary considerably. My theory is that the interest and commitment of parents are among the critical success factors.

A few years back, a heated discussion ensued at a PTO meeting when the topic came up of serving soda (as we had traditionally done) at our elementary school’s annual Field Day. A few parents felt that soda wasn’t appropriate for a school-day physical fitness event. Many others felt that soda was an acceptable treat for a special occasion. The fate of soda was decided when a parent (not me, I swear!) called our Superintendent to ask that the district nutrition policy be enforced. Food and beverages served during special school celebrations and curriculum-related activities are exempt from the state nutrition policy except foods of minimal nutritional value. Soda tops that list.

A friend and I did an informal survey on the blacktop after school and learned that most parents we asked either a) didn’t care one way or the other, in some cases because their own children didn’t drink soda; or b) thought soda was perfectly fine. Although this was a few years ago, I’m not sure the thinking has shifted much.

If it weren’t policy, my unpopular-around-here position would still be that unhealthy foods don’t belong in school. Why not? What’s the big deal, especially for special events and occasions?

First of all, special events and occasions happen with dependable regularity, and treats are served at almost all of them. From birthday parties to holidays to PTO events, cookies, cupcakes, and goody bags of candy are standard fare. When treats become so frequent, can they still be considered treats? How often do we want our kids to have these kinds of foods? [Read more...]

Jersey Proud: 3 Square Deals

One of the things that makes me most proud to call New Jersey home is that Jerseyans take care of their own in a way that I’m not sure exists in other places. That, and the great citizens of the Garden State love them some good eats and really, who can’t get on board with that?

I’m still gushing over the opening of JBJ Soul Kitchen in my Kind of Town and wouldn’t you know another Famous (ok, maybe not AS famous but still) Jersey Institution has gone and done it again.

The folks, (specifically Rockstar Founder Deborah L. Smith)  at Jersey Bites, the outstanding website that gives you the low down on where to get the best bites Jersey has to offer, has created the deal site 3 Square Deals where you can sign up and get incredible deals on some delicious Jersey, well, bites.

Now I know what you’re thinking: another day another deal site. I understand. The amount of mail I get in my inbox daily from the likes of Groupon, Family Finds, Plum District and the like is staggering. But, 3 Square Deals is different for a couple reasons that you should know about.

First, the deals at 3 Square Deals is just for food, so no 1/2 price spas that you’ll never have time for or “ultra cheap” romantic getaways that serve no other purpose than to taunt you from your computer screen.

Second, 3 Square Deals had partnered up with Community Food Banks all across the state so that for every deal purchased, part of the proceeds go toward providing a meal for a Jerseyan in need. 3 Square Deals is kind of like the TOMS of local cuisine. Who wouldn’t want to know that if they have to spend money, at least some of it goes to someone who can’t? This is my favorite aspect of this deal site-Jersey Folks taking care of Jersey Folks and enjoying some grub too.

Check out 3 Square Deals and sign up to get their email alerts so you can save on a meal, provide a meal and feel good about Jersey.

Secure the babysitter now!

 

This is an original post for Jersey Moms Blog. Cristie can be found writing about family (and food) over at  Right Hand Mom and writing about wellness (and food) at Real Life Wellness, her Health Coaching website. (Are you sensing a theme? Cristie loves food. Please, don’t judge.)

 

My Brownies are Real…and They’re Spectacular

I’ve publicly professed that I don’t like to cook.  At one time, I fooled myself into thinking I liked to bake to keep up with the Jones, but I couldn’t maintain the charade.  One trait I absolutely adore in my husband B is that he loves to cook and is a fantastic chef.  When I first told my mom about B, my eyes glazed over, and I dreamily raved about his cooking prowess.  Despite the fact that he brings home the bacon while I’m the glorified nanny, he still comes home from work and cooks.  And he doesn’t offer up Hamburger Helper like one mom snidely assumed…he cooks real meals with real ingredients and probably should have gone to culinary school.

While at work one morning, he suggested I make brownies for dessert, so I looked in the pantry and couldn’t find a mix.  I called him back to say we didn’t have any, and he asked why I couldn’t just use The Joy of Cooking brownie recipe since I’d watched him make them before.  Although I was hesitant to do so, I didn’t want to disappoint him.  As best as I could, I followed the recipe, and they came out pretty well.  From then on, I would make them for school activities, friendly get-togethers and for our own pleasure.  Most people really liked and devoured them, me included.  How proud I was that I actually could bake something well!

Before a recent holiday party, my friends and I discussed via e-mail what we were bringing to the party.  L was bringing an appetizer; G thought about bringing a cheesecake sampler; and M still hadn’t decided.  I wrote that I was baking my usual brownies.  My friend L wrote back, “Wait, did you say YOU’RE making brownies, or B is???”  Of course, I wrote back saying that I was making them, and why didn’t anyone believe me?!? The same thing happened a few weeks ago when I made a homemade meatloaf for dinner – my sister and mom were shocked and couldn’t believe it until they grilled B. So per L’s request to “witness [me] actually cooking”, I decided to add pictures of me making brownies to this blog post.  Prepare to be amazed, naysayers!

So, how did my brownies fare at the holiday party, you ask? “Your brownies rock, MB!”  I heard repeatedly that night from my friend N who may have been too infused with the holiday spirit.  My friend M soothed any doubts and defended me by stating, “I love MB’s brownies because they’re made with real love.”  Glad I have a supportive friend…now what does she want? With forlorn, blue eyes, and a pout betraying the child within, B chimed in with, “How come you always make brownies for the kids and your friends and not for me?” Uh-oh…better step up on those marital vows and crack open the cookbook again…!

And that’s the small verdict from two close friends and my husband…my brownies are real, and they’re spectacular…or are they?!?

 

This is an original post for Jersey Moms Blog. If you’re nice to her and share this post, MB might bring you some brownies.

Hunger Relief in the Season of Stuffing

Most of us are probably still feeling the effects of too much of too many good things over the holiday weekend. That half-demolished lemon curd tart sitting in my fridge begs for attention every time I reach in for the milk, and the third repeat leftover dinner last night still didn’t finish off the cranberry relish and marshmallow-crusted sweet potatoes waiting so patiently in their Tupperware way stations. Yet there are so many others, across the nation as well as right here in Jersey, who rarely get the luxury of three decent meals a day, let alone the spoils of extravagant feasts to enjoy for days on end.

Hunger relief organizations like Community FoodBank and Feeding America certainly get increased awareness and response at this time of year, when people are looking for ways to reach out to those in need, but once the spirit of the season starts to fade and the post-holiday spending fatigue strikes, it’s likely a tough job to keep donations coming. In recent weeks, though, I heard about two new hunger relief initiatives that target awareness and ongoing aid that I thought JerseyMoms Blog readers would like to hear about.

3 Square Deals is a new discount deals site (similar to Groupon) that is the brainchild of the multi-talented (and multi-tasking) Deborah Smith, social media marketing guru and founder/editor of regional food site JerseyBites.com. Launching in January 2012, 3 Square Deals is the perfect way to have your cake and share it with others, too. Daily or weekly deals will promote discount pricing at participating restaurants, retailers, and events, and a portion of every deal consumers purchase goes directly to Community FoodBank of New Jersey and other hunger relief organizations around the state.

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Holiday Hooray: 5 steps to delicious gum drops

Thanksgiving? ALREADY? Shut the front door! I’ve been relatively oblivious regarding how quickly the days and weeks have passed this year, thanks to a job that keeps me insanely busy and kids that never quit needing me. I guess this means I have to finally start shopping for Christmas. Or, wait ’til Christmas Eve day, like I almost always do. Whatevs.

On Thanksgiving Day this year, among all of the other yummies we’ll be enjoying (my favorite is the stuffing!), I’m going to make use of a special recipe from my grandmother’s recipe box: We’re gonna whip up some GUM DROPS! You can, too, by following this simple recipe. [Read more...]