Last October I went back to work after 10 years of being a Stay-At-Home-Mom. Over the summer I had cut back some hours to be home more. School is back in session, as well as my more daily activities of work outside the home. It was up until September that I still considered myself a SAHM. I had to rethink that label.
The past year has brought so many changes to our little family: More sports, less family time; more chores, less time to get them done. I have toyed with the idea of attending a yoga teacher training, or even finally taking the personal trainer test, but quickly realized that it’s just not in the cards right now. My deck is full: health coach and blogger, 30 hours a week at the health food store, writing a book, blogging events, social media work every day, laundry, meal planning, other house chores, driving my son to soccer, assisting my daughter in her independent Girl Scout journey ….
I look at that list of Have-To’s and realize that there is so much missing from the Want-To’s. There are stolen moments of peace with the Hubby, and I try really hard to get one-on-one time with each of our two children. There are quick texts and walks with friends, and a call to say “I Love You” to my parents or grandparents.
I suppose “having it all” was supposed to mean that a woman could have a successful career and have a family. At least, that’s what I used to think it meant.
But it’s more than that.
The past 10 years of being home and truly being able to put my family first was amazing. Not as fulfilling as I originally thought, but cool all the same. As I ventured out of the home to work, I found the one thing that was missing: ME. Whoa. So there you go, by finding me again, and being able to utilize my health and supplement knowledge, I felt whole again. I began to question what was important. Our family is priority number one. If we see that the sports shuffling back and forth dance has taken us away from too many dinners together, we make the time. When I find myself being short with the kids or Hubby, I know it’s because I am feeling overwhelmed and need to take a moment to reflect on how blessed we are. There is no texting at the dinner table, or when spending that one-on-one time with each other. There’s listening, and talking, and laughing. I love the laughing. That is my favorite part.
Having it all is about one thing: BALANCE. Balanced lives are happy lives. Balance is neither too much here or there, but just enough. You can totally have it all, but still need to budget your food money for the month. You can absolutely have it all and tell your kids “no”. It is knowing that I have a busy day ahead of me, but that prioritizing a work out first thing in the morning will help keep that stress level down. It is not feeling guilty for enjoying my work and looking forward to being there too. Balance is everything, so I’m pretty sure that I can say without a doubt that I have it all.
This is an original post for JerseyMomsBlog by Gina Wieboldt, a lifelong Jersey Girl and Health Coach who can also be found at www.jerseygirlorganic.com dishing about healthy and happy living.