People are always asking kids what they want to be when they grow up. As a kid, I never understood why. As an adult, I know there are a few reasons: 1) We’re curious what the kid’s course of study might be. 2) We want to offer advice on how to become whatever their goal occupation is. 3) We have no idea what else to talk to the kid about. Most of the time I thinks it’s #3.
As I come to another crossroad in my life, I’m facing that question: what do I want to do now. When my kids’ schools begin, for the first time in five years, I’ll have “nothing” to do between 8:30 a.m. and 2 p.m. I put quotes around nothing, because I’ve got a list of household items a mile long, from cleaning closets to more blogging to minor but long-neglected physical check-ups I didn’t want to haul the kids to the doctor for.
My past field of marketing doesn’t hold much allure, as it involved long hours, tons of travel, and is incompatible with the fact that I want to be there for my kids when they get home from school. For the 11-year old this is especially important, since the pull of technology and issues inherent in puberty are just now beginning to raise their heads. And who wants to work part-time for minimum wage when half of your salary will wind up being paid for taxes, etc.?
So I’ve been speaking with other women who are in the same boat. No one seems to have a perfect answer and, in fact, there are tons of us facing the same issue. (I would love to hear from some of you who have re-invented yourselves when your kids began school full-time.)
Clearly, I’ve got some soul-searching to do. And investigating. Because, as a liberated woman, I was told I could “have it all.” It’s time to find out if I can.
This is an original post for Jersey Moms Blog by L. Klonsky.
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