Now, while I tend toward dwelling on the positive, I’m also a realist. I understand we don’t all get along all the time. I am sure somewhere these stories of warrior women ring true. I do watch Real Housewives after all. But I have lived in two different states and four different neighborhoods as a parent. I have worked out of the home. I have “stayed home” and I have worked from home. I have blogged as a wide-eyed newbie and I have been around long enough to be considered seasoned in this new arena. I have been on every side of the potential arguments, living among women from every other side and never, not once, have I felt like I was at war.
I find quite the contrary to be true. As a mom, everywhere I look there is support. From the mom making cupcakes for class parties even while racing to her office commute to the stay at home mom who creates (as an unpaid volunteer) an entire professional media event for the local school, women are stepping up to help their communities, no matter how packed their schedules. And if they are complaining about it, it is quietly and without blame.
Personally, there has always been at least one mom willing to pick my school kids up when my baby is sick. There were meals made for my family when I gave birth. There were welcome wagons each time I moved and there was monumental support at at a time of personal tragedy. There is a village out there just waiting to swoop in and help out when necessary and I have always been a part of both the give and take of that village no matter how full my plate.
Professionally, I have met my fair share of undesirable coworkers, but mostly what I have encountered are women who are more than willing to mentor, share and build me up. In turn, I have done the same for those that came after me because that is what I was taught by those who came before.
Moms at work and at home are working together to change education, environment and generally leave the world better than they found it. Not just moms, but all women. For every Housewife spewing hate and tearing someone down, there are ten real women building someone or something up.
Women aren’t at war. Women are too busy building strong neighborhoods, families, businesses and schools. Women aren’t raising arms, they are joining hands as they recognize there is power in their numbers.
There may be some moms out there tearing each other down. But there are far more reaching out and building each other up. Most women know that. I just wish everyone else would take notice too.
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